Being ThirtySomething

Talk ThirtySomething to Me

 

Yes, I like to go to bed at 9 p.m. on the week days, I love coffee at 6 a.m., I would rather hang out with my 10 year old than any other person in the world, I appreciate and value my family and siblings more now at 35 than I ever have in my life.

Whether you are single, married, divorced, widowed....
going through a divorce, getting married  or any of the above....

Your thirties are a decade to remember, my dad always says it was the best decade of his life. You have survived your twenties. You have grown, learned a few things on this path called life, fallen on your face 12,000 times and picked yourself back up again.  Now in your 30s, friends and family alike have started families or they are beginning families.  Your thirties are full of a different kind of hope and vigor compared to your twenties.  Also, you know yourself a little bit better in your 30's.  You know your likes and dislikes.  You can name your favorite movie, favorite food, favorite car....so on...

So what is my blog about....life....life in your 30s.  How totally unexpected it can, how happy it can be, how sad it can be, how joyful it can be, how messy it can be, how fun it can be, but at the end of the day...you must realize each day is a brand new day and you get a fresh start each and every day.  That is pretty damn amazing! 

So here is a few things you can start doing today to make your day better:

LEAVE THE DRAMA AT THE DOOR! 
You also learn as a 30 year old the drama is so not worth the time or the energy.  You lose friends and you gain new ones.  So get rid of the crappy people in your life who drag you down, all the negative people who suck the energy out of you.  They are not worth your time.  Trust me, you are better off without them.  Focus on the people who bring positives into your life and lift you up, especially those who bring joy to your life and make you smile.  At 35, like me, you get to a point where you you make a choice to be happy for yourself and it will lead you down a path you never imagined.  A yellow brick road of peace, serenity and calm. Invest in your family, your siblings, your nieces and nephews and your relationship with your parents.

AN APPLE A DAY KEEPS THE DOCTOR AWAY
Start taking better care of yourself, yes I go to bed every night around 9 p.m.  My mom gives me a hard time.  She and my dad are in their 50s and I swear they are nocturnal.  They always have been and they always will be.  Drink water, less alcohol perhaps more red wine.  Also, take your vitamins.  I didn't know until two years ago I had low Vitamin D.  I now take a Vitamin D supplement every day, a multivitamin and Vitamin B12 for an energy booster.  Also for all you hot babes out there, make an effort to quit smoking now. Your lungs will thank you in your forties and fifties.  One of my favorite snacks has become almonds and replace them for that mid afternoon Snickers if you need to snack or replace that Twix bar with an orange or an apple. 

LET GO AND LET GOD
Stop worrying about the little things.  I have had to focus on letting go of certain things I cannot control. It is not an easy thing for me to do personally.  It takes so much of our mental energy and time to focus on the little things.  Worrying doesn't get you anywhere, it is just like a rocking chair.  I realize I could be finding simple solutions for the problems and move on from it.  Then I can focus on my son and he is the most important thing.  The little crap is not worth it! I pray to St. Teresa.  I keep her prayer card in my purse. When I have moment of stress, I take out my prayer card and I say the prayer.  It helps me feel better inside and I find myself able to move on with my day. 

ACTS OF KINDNESS
One of the things my mom has always told me, do nice things for others and do not expect them to say thank you.  I enjoy doing nice things for others.  I started doing a few things for my co workers last year and I need to get back into the habit of it again.  One day I bought them flowers and then the next month I bought them both gift cards to Starbucks.  I wasn't expecting anything in return.  I simply wanted them both to know how much I appreciated all their hard work.  Be generous with your time also.  Offer to babysit for your friends for free if they need a night out from their children.  Also, do not expect a thank you.  Do not expect anything in return. Just know in your heart you are doing an amazing act for someone else.

xx